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African American dating is getting more in demand all the time. More single African American men are finding their African American queens at online dating services. Why make it difficult by going out to clubs and bars one night a week when you can put yourself in front of thousands of African American singles 24 hours a day. Millions of singles worldwide of African decent are taking advantage of these services, and getting results.
So many singles are now spending their time at bars and clubs enjoying themselves, and using their spare time to find love on the internet. You can search for a date any time of the day, so why wait till the weekend. By the time the weekend arrives you could be on a date, and not out looking for one.
Another reason to choose online dating is the cost of going out all the time. An African American online dating service will cost you for a months use less than one night out. And this gets even cheaper if you purchase 3, 6 or 12 month packages. To add to that when you first join you get a free trial to test out the dating web site. So if you’re not getting on with the web site you can move on to another service without it costing you anything.
There are plenty of online dating reviews you can read online first to see what type of African American dating service you’re attracted to the most. If you’re already used to using e-mails or your instant messenger service you will have no trouble with a dating web site.
Once you have found a dating service to your liking you just need to register yourself, and create your profile. This will not take that long at all even if you put a little effort into it, and make it as descriptive as possible. The extra time you take filling in your details the more chance you will have of someone contacting you. Singles with empty profiles rarely get contacted. Also put a nice, clear, up-to-date photo on your profile. This will give you a much higher rate of e-mails and messages. Other singles like to know what the recipient looks like, and it’s also the one thing on your profile that sparks that initial attraction.
Once you have given the African American online dating service a good try out you can upgrade your membership. This will give you the advantage of sending e-mails to the singles that you are attracted to. Singles that hang on to their free trial can only send flirts or smiles, and these very rarely get replied to. You have to add that personal touch to your message, and point out the reasons why you are attracted to the African American single. That way your message will stand out amongst the others, and you will get the reply.
After you get all this right you will be experiencing your first date with an African American single you met at an African American dating service.
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So you are going to get married and you want to write a beautiful, original wedding vow that the memory of it will last for a lifetime for you and your partner.
Original wedding vows are becoming more and more popular these days. Many couples, just like you, decide to write their very own unique vows to make their special day different and memorable.
But there’s a challenge here: When you sit down to write your wedding vow, you might get the writer’s block and can’t come up with any ideas on what to say.
The good news is, you’re going to learn 3 great ideas to help you write your wedding vow easily. Here you go…
Idea #1: Tell Him/Her Why You Love Him/Her
The person you are going to marry is very special to you and you love him/her very much, right?
So why not start your wedding vow by letting him/her know WHY you love him/her so much? What is it about him/her that have made you fall deeply in love with this person?
Tell him/her how different and wonderful your life has become because having him/her in it, and explain “why”. Simply speak from your heart, because what comes from the heart, reaches the heart.
This will make the perfect beginning for your wedding vow.
Idea #2: Make A Promise about How You Are Going to Make His/Her Life Different
You are planning to spend the rest of your life with this man/woman who you really care about. So tell him/her “how” the rest of his/her life is going to be… with you.
Here’s a sample wedding vow to help you get the picture…
“I will the shoulder you can always lean on. I will be the rock on which you can always rest. Whatever lies ahead, good or bad, I will stand beside you and face it with you. I will be your friend, your lover, and your husband/wife for the rest of our lives.”
It’s a good idea to use a romantic wedding poem here, because sometimes nothing can show our deepest feelings better than a romantic poem.
Idea #3: Take His/Her Hands and Look into His/Her Eyes
No matter what words you are speaking, taking your partner’s hands and looking deep into his/her eyes will definitely double the effect of your words, because they will just flow deep into your partner’s heart.
So take your partner’s hands! It is a very romantic and memorable gesture that will make those moments a beautiful memory you both will cherish for the rest of your lives.
Wishing you a happy and joyful life,
Ladan Lashkari
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Few clothing accessories denote style and luxury as Silk Ties can. Silk Ties add a special sheen to a man’s suit offering both visual interest and personal expression. Other Materials may be used in the manufacturing of ties but silk has a built in cache of expense and glamour. Silk ties benefit from the richer dyes used by silk producers and the expertise of high end designers. Fashion experts often coordinate tailored suits with appropriate silk ties for effect.

Business fashion experts say the choice of tie can reflect the wearers personality or preferred image. Silk Ties offer very bold color schemes and pattern which imply power or security. These ties can also be coordinated with dress shirts to give the impression of organization and personal neatness.

Silk can be printed or woven. Woven silk tends to be thicker and you will often see a fabric weave running through it.

How to clean a Silk Tie:

1. Act immediately

2. Resist the temptation to expose a silk tie to water

3. Use a white paper towel to dab a small amount of stain remover onto the stain

4. Blot with the paper towel.

5. Have the tie professionally dry- cleaned if you haven’t gotten rid of the stain.

Care and Storage:

1. Treat your ties with a specialized fabric protection spray before wearing them.

2. Avoid tie- threatening situations such as open soup bowls, ketchup or mustard packets and babies.

3. Loosely roll ties to store them, rather than hanging them. Tie rolls should be loose to avoid wrinkling, hanging ties can leave creases.

Buying the Right Tie:

To begin with you first need a quality tie made up of 100% pure silk to accomplish that job. As a perfect person you are generally expected to wear a plain colored non- distracting tie with your suit e.g.: in dark red or dark blue color. A crooked tie projects a sloppy look and says the same about the skills and abilities. Therefore it’s important to focus on the tie knot as well.

Conclusion:

1. Buy a quality conservative 100% pure silk tie.

2. Practice how to tie the four in hand tie knot and make sure that the tie’s widest end is roughly at the upper edge of your belt.

3. Use a tie bar to attach your tie to your dress shirt.

Remember wearing a quality silk tie properly tied and fastened is probably the fastest way to improve the overall appearance and doubling your chances of leaving a favorable impression

Mr.H.K Rathi is the Director of KPR Silks Ltd and he can be reachable via http://silktie123.blogspot.com/

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We have all heard the jokes and negative comments surrounding lawyers but have you ever wondered how it all got started. Just as with any profession, there is bad and good. Are there unethical, incompetent attorneys? Of course! Just as there are unethical, incompetent plumbers, physicians, and restaurant workers. However, for some inexplicable reason, it seems lawyers have had more than their fair share of “bad”. The complexity of the law and the demand for legal services from the boardroom to the coat room validate that the profession does have value, so why the bad press?

Well let’s begin with fees. The hourly bill may just have been the beginning of the end for the legal profession. No one is in a good mood when an hourly meter is running, particularly when you can’t control the number of hours that you purchase! Traditionally, Lawyers have relied on the hourly rate, as their standard for billing. With this billing arrangement, the law firm would maintain a record of everything done for you to include phone calls, written letters, court appearances, consultations, etc. You are then billed an agreed upon hourly fee for all of the time that was spent working on your behalf. In addition, you could also incur additional expenses such as transportation, document fees, even phone calls. While this practice is standard in many professions, many consumers believe that attorneys inflate expenses in an effort to make additional profit.

In truth, most service providers use an hourly rate to calculate a fee. In example, an accountant might quote you a fee of $250.00 to review your taxes. The fee is not out of line with your geographic area and the accountant comes highly recommended so you opt to hire him/her at this rate. What you may not realize is that the $250 flat fee may be based on the accountant’s knowledge that the review will take 2.5 hours of time at $100 per hour.

Many attorneys have become a bit more market savvy and offer alternative billing arrangements. Rather than hourly bills and separate expense charges, they may offer case rates, retainer agreements and other solutions. The key is in providing value for the dollar charged, and creating long term relationships.

Another area that has eroded the reputation of lawyers is the unfortunate lapses in ethical behavior. While most attorneys do in fact adhere to the standards of law, the few bad apples have made it difficult for the public to trust lawyers. For example, in the state of South Carolina a young man was on trial for a murder that most believe he never committed. His family sold their home, cars, and gathered all the cash possible to hire a good defense lawyer. Believing their son was in the best hands possible, they discovered that the prosecuting attorney was married to their lawyer’s sister and that pertinent information had been shared, resulting in a mistrial. As you can imagine, this put a black mark against those attorneys, as well as others who were innocent but within the same community.

Personal injury law has been another source of questionable ethics. Billboard and commercial advertisements abound with the promise of high dollar settlements for your case. This marketing tactic only adds to the negative perception of the legal profession, as it makes them appear as ethical as snake oil salesmen.

Additionally, most of us have heard the horror stories about attorneys collaborating back room deals with physicians. In this instance, an attorney wanting to win a case involving a car accident or injury on the job might send his client to a “special” doctor that will validate and even overemphasize the level of injury. The doctor testifies in court in support of the plaintiff, giving the attorney and case strong credibility. Again, these practices are not standard for all personal injury lawyers but unfortunately the actions of a minority have significantly impacted the majority.

The attorneys that engage in unethical practices deserve to be drummed right out of the profession. Sadly, it is unlikely to happen because just as there is a market for competent, ethical law practitioners there is also a market for the legal underbelly. People that desire to bring forward fraudulent lawsuits, illegal adoptions or even illegal immigrations will turn to attorneys who are willing to work around the established rules of law.

Most attorneys are honest, hard-working individuals who take their work very seriously. Because of this, we see a number of law firms working to change public opinion. There are dishonest “professionals” in any field. We can look to education for current examples. There seems to be a spate of sex scandals involving schoolteachers, yet, the four cases that have been highlighted in the news within the past year does not mean all schoolteachers are sex offenders.

The same is true with lawyers. Yes, we have seen cases in which some are not honest and sadly, those are the cases exploited through the media. What you do not hear much of are stories about the reputable attorneys that solve cases and help improve or even change lives. While the public may not be quite ready to elevate lawyers to hero status maybe, just maybe we can start a kinder, gentler trend of being a little nicer.

Richard A. Hall is founder and President/CEO of LexTech, Inc., a legal information consulting company. Mr. Hall has a unique breadth of experience which has enabled him to meld technology and sophisticated statistical analysis to produce a technology driven analytical model of the practice of law. As a busy civil trial attorney, he was responsible for the design and implementation of a LAN based litigation database and fully automated document production system for a mid-sized civil defense firm. He developed a task based billing model built on extensive statistical analysis of hundreds of litigated civil matters. In 1994, Mr. Hall invented linguistic modeling software which automatically reads, applies budget codes, budget codes and analyzes legal bill content. He also served as California Director and lecturer for a nationwide bar review. Mr. Hall continues to practice law and perform pro bono services for several Northern California judicial districts.

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Bipolar disorder is also known as manic depression. Bipolar disorder is a psychological disorder that effects a person’s mood. The mood swings are very extreme with a manic (high elation) phase and a very deep depressive phase. There is estimated to effect approximately 1% of the adult population. There is also evidence that shows that neither men nor women have a greater chance of suffering from bipolar disorder than the other. Bipolar is the third most common disorder after major depression and dysthymic disorder (a mild but persistent form of depression). Because of the extreme psychological disturbances caused by bipolar disorder, it can destroy lives. Alcohol and drug problems are often present in sufferers and without proper medication and care, it leads to 20% of sufferers committing suicide.

Many people experience a depressive phase most of the time, while only experiencing very few manic episodes. It is the swing between moods that people find hardest to deal with. Although no one would care to feel deeply depressed.

There is no cure for bipolar disorder and it is a life-long condition that often needs to be controlled with medication. Lithium is used to help control mania phases of people who suffer from bipolar disorder. Bipolar often begins in adolescence or early adulthood, and continues throughout life. Bipolar disorder is very seldom diagnosed in people who are 40 years old and above.

Types of Phases

Although it is generally accepted that bipolar disorder alternates the sufferers mood between mania and depression, the American Psychiatric Association has identified four different moods that are experienced in varying degrees of intensity and length, or not at all.

Depression - typical depression from a lack of motivation or interest in anything including eating to thoughts and attempts at suicide.

Mania - often begins with an elated or euphoric feeling. can also cause a sufferer to feel angry and irritable.

Hypomania - a milder form of mania where the person feels good and feels they are becoming more productive with their life.

Mixed mood - a mixed episode is characterised by experiencing feelings of mania and depression all in the same day.

Symptoms of Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder symptoms are disturbances or abnormality of moods with the sufferer alternating between a manic phase and a depressive phase repetitively.

Depressive Phase Symptoms
Very deep negative moods often with thoughts or attempts at suicide.
Eating disorders.
No interest in activities enjoyed in the past.
None or very little interest in sex.
No self esteem.
Sleeping problems high an low.
Feeling guilty.

Manic Phase Symptoms
Excessive high or euphoric feelings along with many grand or over-ambitious ideas or plans.
Excessive amounts of energy.
Unnaturally high self-esteem and self-belief.
Increased sex drive which may lead to promiscuity and aggressive sexual behaviour.
Extreme irritability and easily distracted.
Alcohol and drug abuse, usually cocaine and sleeping medication.
Little need for sleep.
Manic phase lasts at least one week.

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You may not think this pertains with Dating, but stick with me here.
It’s fascinating to me to read what the media has to say when they’ve reported on a self created story that is just plain wrong.
Last week they were gleefully swarming over reports that Terrell Owens tried to kill himself (reports that have been thoroughly discredited), and before the season started they were manufacturing reports that he was faking a hamstring injury (although two of the NFL’s best receivers, Hines Ward and Steve Smith missed more time with the same injury).
Why would the media do this? Because it’s useful to them to believe what they want to believe. It gives them a reason to feel important via “outrage,” knowing they will never have to experience any consequences for their actions.
If you aspire to any amount of success in life, whether it is financial, or dating desireable women of your choice, you have got to avoid people who believe what they want to believe, then attempt to impose those beliefs on others.
The world is rife with those types of people, and it is getting worse. Why? Because it’s easy. When a person spends their time imposing a set of beliefs that is popular, it removes them from the responsibility of the outcomes those beliefs bring them. In fact, they often blame their outcomes on other people with more realistic beliefs–it’s easier than taking responsibility for the outcomes those beliefs actually cause.
If you want to be successful, you have to do what works, and that often involves the painful process of changing your belief system, admitting that you’ve been dead wrong about some things, and taking on a very unpopular belief system (at least to the majority who get ordinary results).
But when you do so, your outcomes change, much to the chagrin of those around you who have chosen the easy path of adopting popular beliefs that produce conventional results. And, the squealing from those people only increases as the results you get begin to show them how hollow their beliefs really are.
You show up with a beautiful, intelligent woman you attracted using unpopular beliefs. You start a business, create a lot of value, and make a lot of money using unpopular beliefs. What do people believe? You scammed a bunch of others, and your girlfriend is with you only because of your “stolen money.” Makes ‘em feel better to believe this.
But in the end, they’re the ones going home to an empty house with an empty bank account, silently envying your success, but too afraid to abandon the beliefs and the ego that would allow them to experience the same thing. So they run you down to make themselves feel better.
Pay no attention to them. It’s the results that matter, not what others with unqualified opinions and dangerous beliefs have to say.
Let them squawk while you enjoy your life–the louder they squawk, the more successful you know you are.
John Alanis is the creator of the Ultimate Attraction system, at http://www.womenapproachyou.com . He also has a blog at http://www.johnalanis.com

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If you are having some trouble in the bedroom, you may be feeling a little discouraged. This can be a hard time for you and your partner. If you do not like the way that your partner is making love to you, you need to do something about it. This is after all, one of the most important parts of your relationship. You need to make sure that you both are satisfied both emotionally and physically as well.
You will want to have the most pleasurable time with your partner when it comes to love making. You need to be honest and up front with them so that they can change something to make it better. This is the only way the situation will get better and you can be happier with all aspects of your love life.
You simply have to talk with your partner so that you can get it all out in the open. You need to make sure that you are keeping the lines of communication open between the both of you so that you can get the problems sorted out. Maybe it is just a matter of needing something new and exciting in your love life.
What do women look for in lovemaking, and why?
Women want to have sensitivity. Most women want to have their partner completely connected with them so that they know that they are loved. No woman wants to be in a relationship that is based solely on her sexual activity. They want more than just that. They want to have an emotional and physical bond with their mate as well.
It is important to have the before and after in lovemaking. Women want to have the bonding before and the talking after. They want to know that they are special and that their mate is as attracted to them as they are to the other person. It is important to have the special connection that is found between lots of happy couples.
What turns women on, and why?
Women are different from men when it comes to love making. They want to have the special bond together with their partner. When two people are in love and they want to be together, they will have to spend time with each other and getting to know about the other person. Women want to have excitement and energy in their lovemaking. They want to have that spur of the moment fling every once in a while and at the same, they like to be romanced.
It will depend on the woman and what she really wants in her love life. Women are different and there will be different preferences for each of them. When it comes to love making, the woman and the man need to figure out a way to meet the needs of both. For a healthy and loving relationship that is going to last, it is very crucial that both partners are getting what they need in the love making process.
You can try putting some romance and spice into your love life. Do not be afraid to try new things and if it is not something that works out, then at least you know and you gave it a shot. You will never know unless you give it a try.
How can I tell my partner I don’t like the way he makes love to me without hurting or offending him?
When you are simply not happy in the bedroom, you need to find a way to be open and honest with your partner. You may not want to end the relationship because you have other special bonds with each other and you have put a lot of commitment into this relationship.
However, you need to be ready to stand up for what is important in your lovemaking. You have to make sure that you are talking to your partner on a regular basis. Being honest is better than holding it all inside. You want to open up the lines of communications so that there can be a change and both of you can be satisfied and go on with your special relationship.
You must carefully explain to the other person how you are feeling and what it is that you want exactly. You should not be embarrassed about this situation and in fact use it for a good lesson. You need to be able to tell your partner anything so that you can feel comfortable and have an open and honest relationship.
Usually when you are in a loving and caring relationship, you will find that this is easy to take care of. Your partner will want to make you as happy as they can and the same with you. If your partner does the news badly that you are not happy with the love making in the relationship, maybe it is not meant to be and you should move on. However, if you are in a serious and committed relationship, you can work through this problem just as you would any other situation that can come up between couples.
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If you are in business, you know that it’s important to have a variety of information about those individuals who are working with you. This is true whether the position involves a security detail, handling large amounts of cash or working with a great deal of information such as the social security numbers and credit information for your company’s clients.

Therefore, conducting an employee background check is essential in many businesses. However, not every manager or owner will have the time to thoroughly check out everyone who has applied for and who is being considered for filling a position. That’s where a private investigator comes in.

It’s possible to hire a private investigator to conduct an employee background check for you.

With an employee background check, a private investigator can determine whether the prospective employee:

has a car or truck registered in his or her name;
has a clean driving record;
has indeed attended the college or university listed on his or her application;
has been sued or has a criminal record;
has ever filed for bankruptcy protection;
has sued a previous employer for worker’s compensation;
has passed state licensing exams such as those for teachers, doctors, nurses or lawyers;
has ever failed a drug test; or
has been listed on the sex offenders registry.

With this information, you can verify the information that is on the applicant’s resume and determine whether or not they meet the criteria that your company sets for its employees.

Much of the information that is included in an employee background check is information that is on public record. Therefore, some businesses may wonder why they should hire a private investigator when it is possible to get the information on their own.

There are a number of reasons why it makes sense to hire a private investigator to conduct an employee background check. Time is one reason: while as an employer may have to place a number of phone calls or conduct a number of searches just to determine who should be contacted to find the information, a private investigator is experienced at conducting employee background checks.

In addition to saving time by having someone else conduct an employee background check, your business will be able to continue to focus on your clients and customers. As a result, your day to day business will not slip through the cracks and you can be sure that the employee background check is conducted without bias.

When the same individuals who conduct interviews also conduct employee background checks, it’s possible that a detail would be weighted based on the interview with or personality of the applicant. Because a private investigator is a neutral party, all that will be considered during the employee background check is the information that the search yields.

With that information, you will be better able to determine whether or not the applicant is someone who fits in with your company, your mission statement and the specifics of the position. And, thanks to an employee background check, you can be sure that the person who you hire is a reputable, reliable candidate who will help your business to grow.

David Almeida is a licensed private investigator with a degree in criminal justice. He is affiliated with the National Association of Investigative Specialists and the Licensed Private Detective’s Association of Massachusetts. For more information visit http://www.baystatedetective.com

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Are you wondering how adding a forum or guestbook to your website might help you attract and/or keep visitors?

Here are a few things you might want to think about.

Guestbooks

A guestbook is a place where visitors can leave comments about your site. Good hosting companies have part loaded Guestbook software which you can easily add to your account such as the Viper Guestbook.

Is a Guestbook right for your site?

If you are not attracting many visitors you cannot expect a guestbook to help you attract more. You may be able to get friends and family to leave nice comments about the site, but you may be disappointed that you don’t get too many off the cuff comments from your site visitors.

If you are thinking about adding a Guestbook think carefully whether it is appropriate for your site. If your site is giving information about a hobby or a place, your visitors may wish to add their own remarks. We run a very successful Guestbook for a riding stables, where people like to share their experiences, or to make comments about the site (requesting more pictures for example).

We have also tried adding Guestbooks on other sites, but have found that a Guestbook will be less used if visitors are simply going to the site to find out information - the reason being that they do not yet have the experiences to share! Hobby sites are probably the most appropriate sites for Guestbooks.

Are there any cons to having a Guestbook?

Yes, there are. SPAMMERS! Spammers are the bane of all hard working webmasters. After your Guestbook has been live for a while you will find that it will get innundated by spam. This usually appears simply as a long list of websites totally unrelated to your site. Often this list includes links to porn or gambling sites, which may be totally inappropriate if your site is looked at by children.

The way to manage this is to use a Guestbook which enables you to vet all the new entries before they are posted. You may find, as we did for one of our sites, that this gets to be so arduous that you end up taking the Guestbook down. It is a real shame, but you have to weigh up the amount of extra time going through the entries is taking you against the number of bona fide and useful comments you are getting.

Although there is nothing to stop you adding a Guestbook as soon as you put your website live, you should not be disappointed if you do not get any visitors. Remember to put a link to the Guestbook on your pages reminding people to leave a comment in the Guestbook, as this will help let them know it is there. If you don’t get bona fide comments, don’t take it as an indication that people do not like your site. If you are offering travel information, for example, people may be too busy finding out all they can about a place they are thinking of visiting to take the time to add a comment.

Forums

Good web hosting companies allow you to use forum software for free (the popular phpBB2 discussion board which you can customise or SMF).

You will get people to visit and talk about things that interest them on a forum. The forum needs to be related to your site (otherwise it is difficult to sign post people to it), and the best forums are those that enable people to share experiences about hobbies. There are already hundreds of forums on the internet - you will need to find something which makes yours unique. Sometimes this is the luck of the draw - if you attract interesting members (i.e. people who are knowledgeable and put over information in an interesting way) you will end up with a successful forum.

Forums do not develop overnight. They take time. Sometimes it is months before you get the first few members. But again, don’t be disheartened. Expect it to take time, start off some interesting threads yourself, and wait to see what happens.

As with Guestbooks Forums attract spammers. There are ways of managing these, but this does take time and management. You can make sure you authorise each new registration to your site, but you need to review your emails everyday to make sure there is as little a time lag as possibe between someone joining the forum and you granting them access. Wait too long and they will have forgotten and lost interest! You can alter the sign up scripts so that people cannot add a website address when they register. This is recommended - if people are only joining to advertise their own website they will not be genuine contributors to your forum.

Forums are a great way of letting others generate content for your website - a successful forum will grow into a community where people chat to, share information with and help each other. Search engines spider forums, and can help bring traffic to your site.

You will need to pay regular attention to your forum, as people can put on inappropriate entries. It often helps if you have a friend who will help moderate the site for you, as they may be able to go onto it to check the entries at times when you are not available.

The more successful your forum, the more work you will need to do!

So, are Guestbook and Forums right for you?

There is nothing to stop you trying a Forum or Guestbook on your website - but be prepared for these to take quite a while to get off the ground. There is nothing more disheartening than setting it all up and sitting back and then seeing nothing for possibly months (except for spam!).

But if you are prepared to wait you may very well be pleasantly surprised, and you may find that it works for you.

Consider carefully though the subject matter of your website, and think if you were visiting this sort of site would it make you want to leave a comment, or ask a question on a forum? If you are simply selling something the answer is probably ‘no’, as you will simply be going from site to site looking for the best deals. If you are giving information as well, however, you may find a forum useful to attract people to your site.

The final word

Forums and Guestbooks are fun, but they can be demanding and extra work, especially for the part time webmaster who already has more than enough to do. If you don’t want to have the ongoing commitment, our advice is don’t bother with these extras. The more successful they become, the more you will have to do!

Pat Ransom has worked in the IT industry for 15 years and is experienced with local government and company websites. Having designed and published a successful and acclaimed website in her own right the secrets of website design and publishing are now shared at http://www.webmasterproductions.co.uk.

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Sexuality is completely normal and spiritual and the more some fearful fundamental and orthodox radicals condemn lovemaking, except to produce children to labor in the mines, mills and fields of a global market world, the more clearly psychotherapists see their selfish defense mechanisms. Many do indeed protest far too much. We do say this, however.
Of course we believe that God’s ideal is one of commitment and love — reflected by chastity before marriage and monogamy within that permanent relationship.
We, Roberta and Jard who collaborated on LOVERS FOR LIFE, write with values that in our case are distinctly spiritual. And while this isn’t a religion course but our marriage enhancing program, there is no way we can deny our faith without compromising our message. Indeed, we cannot ignore our covenant connection with the Creator of the Cosmos. We believe that God is the source of all love and while love obviously existed for women and men many millennia before Jesus’ great spiritual revelation, that mission was to most clearly reveal God’s love for humans and to demonstrate our human potential for love.
God’s love is our own example; we feel that Jesus’ sacrificial act was the greatest display of love ever revealed by a single person. In a very special way it opened the door for God’s spirit to enter more fully into this world of women and men who carry within their souls, bodies and minds the capacity for becoming lovers for life. In fact, Jard has been instrumental in developing two programs, one for ministers and another for lay persons that applies practical faith, hope and love in one of the world’s fastest growing Christian denominations. These two programs have been instrumental in helping lead millions of African, Latino, European and Asian men and women into a covenant relationship with the God of the Cosmos. And God alone knows where this shall go in the next decade. Because moving toward spiritual maturity means so much to us, Jard feels that contribution to faith, hope and love is his most valuable contribution to society.
Having said that, we must also tell you that we are deeply disappointed by the failures of fundamentalist Christianity, Islam and Judaism that enforce sexist neuroticism, cruel traditions and immature religious ideologies on women and then claim their crippling psychopathies are God’s will for everyone. God wants no such thing — but what really angers us about such reactionary pretension is its hypocrisy. As researchers, counselors and teachers, we know all too well that the fundamental power brokers who want to dominate your spirituality have the same sexual yearnings as the rest of us. Need we go beyond T V preachers Jim Bakker who was long seducing his young secretary and James Swaggert who paid prostitutes to let him watch them masturbating. Consider the heavy penalties some Catholic dioceses are paying because neurotic priests, because of the pressures caused by abstinence and the loneliness it causes, seduced trusting boys and girls. Can anyone really believe that their life-long celibacy had nothing to do with the disasters that followed?
We have found in our research that the greatest problems faced by women and men are caused by the fact we are spiritual souls with a great capacity for love and self-sacrifice, woven into a primitive homosapien bodies hobbled with narcissism and capable of great rage, violence and selfishness.
If, as the connectional covenant religions teach, humans are called by God to serve one another in love, a great many of us fail in our selfish attitudes and choices. The strengths and shortcomings of human love is revealed in our attitudes, expectations, beliefs and choices. Actually there is much more to each person than these bodies that can bring us such enchanting relationships when joined with a lover. What we do with them is crucial to our happiness. The way our bodies evolved through the long eons is important to us. What we think about them and how we use them is critical and how we express our love is especially vital to our contentment. Men and women are mirror image souls who need one another for fulfillment — for intimate caresses through the long nights of winter, for the yin and yang of masculine and feminine strengths, for perpetuating ourselves immortally through our children. Our precious bodies fit together so well that Jesus called lovemaking becoming one flesh — as indeed it does in many different ways during loving sexual relationships when two otherwise barren persons join to create the miracle of new life.
Of course, perceptive women and men have always been filled with awe by the miracle of conception and birth. The creation of life is indeed almost beyond comprehension to most of us — so much so that every society and religion has surrounded the birth of children with many myths, traditions and ideologies to explain that which was very difficult for them to understand. Virtually every society has, as Sigmund Freud wrote so perceptively, developed a great deal of squeamishness, anxiety and neuroticism about human sexuality. There is something about lovemaking that both fascinates and terrifies a great many persons and leads to major frustrations and perversions that many unfortunate people never overcome. Some of those fearful souls become clergy or theologians who ponder what God wants from us — and reach answers according to their unconscious needs and conscious justifications.
All primitive, pre-industrial and pre-fossil fuel societies, needed strong young workers so badly that they reached conscious and unconscious decisions about the responsibilities of women to the tribe or clan that are pointless today, even though fundamental religious leaders assume they still are important. Since so many laborers were needed to do the unending labor of survival and many soldiers were needed to protect the workers from raiding tribes, virtually every primitive clergyman and theologian in Christianity, Judaism and Islam developed the belief that God created women to be expendable. At a time when half the children died of starvation and disease before they could be turned out to work, the important people, the decision making men, decided it was better that women remain pregnant for twenty years, even if they died with a fifteenth child, rather than the tribe be endangered by a labor shortage. Since women were expendable, they were obviously second class souls who must be restricted in their education, their influence and in their careers, so they could remain brood mares for the clan. This was seen as their God given role to the society, each of which believed that it had a lock on God. And since the basic role of fundamental religion is to block change in every way possible, to preserve the good old fashion religion forever, every generation from time immemorial; has tried very hard to keep women from breaking free from the old ideologies and theologies with which the primitive priests and theologians justified the abuse of women.
For example, some earlier neurotic clergy of the Christian church internalized into their theology and traditions a twisted hatred of women and a deep, dark disgust with their own sexual needs. Around the year 1000 a clutch of psychopathic theologians and bishops were so fearful of women that they banned them from every aspect of leadership and public worship. In their quest for congregations that paid and prayed and obeyed — they drowned and butchered and burned at the stake thousands of women whom they insisted had become witches by fornicating with Satan. The Devil must have been very busy, must never have taken a night off as he bounced from bed to bed of women eager to doom their souls to eternal punishment in return for a quick lay with the master demon!
Certainly, pretty women must obviously be witches, the neurotic priests reasoned, for they would walk by and smile and the men would be sexually aroused by the way their breasts and buttocks moved. Such lust couldn’t possibly come from within themselves, they assumed — they were priests, they were holy and sanctified servants of God! Such sinful feelings had been overcome by the Holy Spirit when a man took his holy orders! They rationalized that their lust had to come from the outside, as spells cast on them by the satanic witches who were seeking to seduce men in order to drag their souls to hell with themselves. Better slay such evil women as quickly as possible rather than to risk one’s own salvation. The Medieval church, with all its fears and frustrations, fell to the slaughter with an eager will. We shudder to think how many friendly, compassionate women of grace and beauty were murdered to justify the psychopathy of neurotic men with the power of life and death over their parishes.
Unless, of course, you actually believe Satan still sleeps with women in order to turn them into witches who are then recruited to damn holy men of the cloth to the flames of hell.
The psychopaths rationalized that God distrusted women as the carriers of sexuality as much as they themselves did. Haven’t religious reactionaries always confused their own fears with God’s will? Didn’t Jerry Falwell and Bob Jones spend the first fifty years of their lives insisting that God had made black Christians inferior to white Christians and thus must be segregated lest the pure white race be contaminated by black evil? Sexual love was seen as a weakness caused by the sin of Adam and Eve. Since the Medieval period, much of the church has taught that sexual intercourse was the forbidden fruit that caused alienation from God in the Garden of Eden and insured our inevitable death as punishment for their sin. What a monster this makes God — what a perversion of love.
It was as if God was saying;
I gave humans a hunger for joyous sexuality and a yearning for love and then forbid them from satisfying this powerful drive. I created this clever double bind as a means of testing their obedience to my commands.
Great problems arose — the neurotic bishops couldn’t monitor every bed — they learned in the confessional that the peasants were still weak — confessing their sins of the flesh, accepting their penance and going right back to the marriage bed. Since something must be done, they decided that God and themselves who spoke for him, could bring himself to tolerate sex but only if it included the possibility of conception. They had to allow some sex for obviously, the prohibition of sex couldn’t be complete or else the human race would vanish in one generation. Nevertheless, they believed that God still hated sex and distrusted women who carried sexuality in their bodies, but he would allow it as a concession to human weakness. After all, not everyone could be as holy and as chaste as God’s priests. Especially not women.
Women are still devalued and debased; condemned to second class citizenship as not one woman in the huge Catholic and Orthodox movements has been admitted to priestly leadership. In Islam any woman who shows a modicum of interest in anything from voting to driving a car or in limiting the number of children she shall carry, is quickly stoned to death. The Southern Baptist Convention of some fifty thousand American congregations automatically cast out each of the sixty odd churches that recently defied the Convention’s order against ordaining women preachers. The Missouri Synod Lutheran councils have only recently decided that under some circumstances women can vote on congregational issues. In contrast, we are pleased that our own denomination is now ordaining as many women as men. In fact, the United Methodists have become a refuge for the best and brightest young women from the reactionary groups. We gain their best and brightest, for we will ordain and hire them and set them out doing God’s work. Even some of our bishops are women which drives many reactionary clergymen wild when they must work with them on community issues.
Thus, as it always happens, the nature of Christ’s revelation of love for women as well as men has been distorted and debased by a narcissistic male aristocracy within the church and through each secular society. From the very beginning of the Christian era, men with religious and political power immediately began shaping the church and its theology to meet their own needs. When the rich estate owners needed farm workers to plow the fields and harvest the crops, the church soon agreed and began teaching that human sexuality was legitimate only if we paid the piper with a new child to work the aristocracy’s estates. When slave trading and owning was a common abuse of black humans, the clergy of Dixie fell right into line with the slave traders and owners. There was hardly a single group within Colonial America that didn’t profit from the slave trade so, of course, expedient preachers in fundamentalist churches had to bless and justify the wretched business. The reactionary church still blesses every war that secular rulers begin and always send their young men to kill other young men and to die horrible deaths to profit the society. For sixty years the church — Catholic, Orthodox and Fundamental Protestant, taught that the Cold War was a struggle between God and Satan. Of course, it was really a desperate struggle between two great financial, political and industrial systems for dominance around the world. Every intelligent person sees that now — but the reactionary church for reasons of its own soon turned the Cold War into a great spiritual crusade being fought by God’s holy people. Actually, both Roberta and Jard have trouble seeing Chase Bank and Wells-Fargo — or General Motors and Standard Oil as great spiritual entities doing God’s work for humankind!
We both are covenant Christians but never Victorian prudes for whom any departure from radical assumptions is an adequate reason for punishment — preferably a public flogging — from self-righteous and reactionary pulpits across the land. We, ourselves have had rollicking sex lives for half a century and recommend it most highly. We don’t care — let the hypocritical and primitive blue noses call us a dirty old couple for enjoying our love, we have an even lower opinion of their sexual neuroticism. Of course we wouldn’t have titled our book about marriage LOVERS FOR LIFE had we not believed that God’s ideal for each couple is a permanent union that matures from youth through all of life and on to the elderly years with even deeper love. We believe that sexual love and our reproductive capacity are spiritual gifts that are best shared with one very special person within a life-long commitment. We understand and accept that for many reasons marriages fail and both men and women move on, doing the best they can to settle into a new relationship that offers them the love and satisfaction each person deserves. It is total lunacy for any neurotic bully within the church to teach that a pair of kids must remain lonely, loveless and celibate for the next fifty years because they made an unfortunate marriage when twenty or twenty-two years of age. God has never limited us to one roll of the dice at love that is blessed by the church — and even if we mature along the way, must live a loveless life forever after. That truly is psychopathy disguised as spirituality regardless of how well concealed by a Medieval sexist theology.
We accept that this psychosexual union most persons crave should be open to new life; is most satisfying with children, grandchildren and in our case, with great-grandkids! But we really didn’t want to be over blessed with offspring every time we shared sexual pleasure in the past half century! To satisfy our curiosity we once calculated that there have been some 5,000 times one of us has reached for the other with carnal intent and ended up sleeping in one another’s arms, deeply contented, both going off to work the next morning with a smile on our faces and a song on our lips. Jard had no intention of keeping Roberta barefoot and pregnant all our lives and she would likely have strangled him had he tried! We are convinced — the religious assumption that any expression of sexuality that blocks conception is an affront to God and the church — is pure neuroticism from the sick minds of those Medieval scholars who corrupted the church’s beliefs about sexuality during the Dark Ages of Europe. We understand how difficult it is for fundamental and orthodox clergy to accept women as equals without ripping theology, methodology and traditions out by the roots. Much of the church is trapped by its ancient view of women and sexuality. One Catholic philosopher we know recently wrote about sexuality — including homosexuality and contraception.
We all long to hear that our sexual disorders are not really disorders, that the simple yearning to be righteous makes it so. That would quickly eliminate the struggle to mature spiritually from our lives. But to do that would mean that our souls were not to be taken seriously — that the revelation of Christ doesn’t lead to better lives. The church cannot accept this — not even in the name of compassion for those who are in error. No good is served when we abandon the old Truths about the role of conception in lovemaking, of love bringing about the creation of new life to glorify God.
To which we add that we cannot see that a woman who brings twelve to fourteen children, into an often hungry world before she dies during her last childbirth, is glorifying God. His rationalization expressed the theologian’s sexist views lingering from the Medieval Era. To which Jard adds:
No good is served if we internalize Medieval psychopathy in 21st century theology and demand that couples obey a clutch of sexually frustrated men who pretend God lets them make the rules governing our sexuality without ever playing the game! Great family disasters are formed when theologians insist that women are little if anything more than brood mares to their men and the church.
Actually, the Catholic Church’s position about celibacy for the clergy is enforced only among European, North American and Asian priests. The point is often moot across the southern hemisphere, because the vast majority of Latin American and African priests are either married with families or in permanent relationships with mistresses and the children they conceive together. Both the Pope and the Curia have lost that battle and they pragmatically tolerate it. They must, for their entire program would collapse should they enforce the rules — the priests would leave their parishes to care for their families. Somehow we cannot see the sexually reactionary portion of the church changing much of anything without a revolution by religious women who demand equality in which they are truly valued as first class persons. Women cannot force the reactionary primitives to ordain them — in every reactionary religious group the old boys control the machinery, but more than ninety-six percent of English speaking Catholic couples of child bearing age use contraception to space their pregnancies. The intelligent and educated women of the West — through Europe, America, Canada and Australasia have opted out of producing floods of ragged kids they can neither feed nor educate, to work in the fields for the nobles and to fight the aristocracy’s wars. They have sense enough to know that playing Vatican Roulette condemns themselves to perpetual baby making and poverty rather than enjoying satisfying lives of their own. That is, assuming one hasn’t been abandoned by a macho husband who has run away to San Francisco to find himself, after giving her six children in seven years to support without any earning skills.
The worst of the lot fear and hate women, resent them and detest their own sexual needs that make them vulnerable to any woman they love. They are trying very hard to block women from breaking free of their restrictions, just as their fathers and grandfathers in the religions tried desperately to block the use of contraception, the right of women to vote, to work outside the home and in places like Iran and Saudi Arabia to learn to read and write and to drive an automobile and to choose her own husband. Orthodox Catholic, fundamental Protestant, orthodox Jew and reactionary Muslim men are especially determined to keep women in a subservient relationship with God and his especially blessed rulers — they themselves. Of course, they lay all the blame for their wicked pettiness toward women on God — whom they insist tells them he wants women barefoot and pregnant, subservient and meek and always available sexually to they, themselves.
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